Ten Secrets to be a better person

The FIRST secret - the power of THOUGHT. Love begins with our thoughts. We
become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving
relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about others and
ourselves. If we want to love someone, we need to consider his or her needs and
desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognise her when you
meet her.

The SECOND secret - the power of RESPECT.
You cannot love anyone or anything
unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself.
To begin to gain self-respect, ask yourself, What do I respect about myself? -
To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself, What do I
respect about them? -

The THIRD secret - the power of GIVING. If you want to receive love, all you
have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To
love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of
kindness. Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will
be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The
secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on
what you can give instead of what you can take.

The FOURTH secret - the power of FRIENDSHIP. To find a true love, you must first
find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other"s eyes, but
rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone
completely you must love him or her for who they are and not for what they look
like. Friendship is the soil through which love seeds grow. If you want to bring
love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.

The FIFTH secret - the power of TOUCH. Touch is one of the most powerful
expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch
changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.
The SIXTH secret - the power of LETTING GO. If you love something, let it free.
If it comes back to you, it's yours, if it doesn"t, it never was. Even in a
loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love,
we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love
means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. Today I let go
of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new
life. -

The SEVENTH secret - the power of COMMUNICATION. When we learn to communicate
openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them.
Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be
afraid to say those three magic words: I Love You Never let an opportunity pass
to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could
be the last time you see him or her. If you were about to die but could make
telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say
and .. why are you waiting?

The EIGHTH secret -
The power of COMMITMENT. If you want to have love in
abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in
your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the TRUE test of love. If you want to
have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When
you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option.
Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.

The NINTH secret - the power of PASSION. Passion ignites love and keeps it
alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone; it comes
from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be
recreated by recreating past experiences. When you felt passionate spontaneity
and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same;
all we need to do is to live each day with passion.

The TENTH secret -
the power of TRUST. Trust is essential in all loving
relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and
the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love
someone completely unless you trust him or her completely. Act as if your
relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can
tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, . Do I trust them
completely and unreservedly? - If the answer is no -, think carefully before
making a commitment.

Spam dan Scam

Buat yang sering ketipu ama spam mendingan baca deh.........
SPAM atau junk mail adalah penyalahgunaan dalam pengiriman berita elektronik untuk menampilkan berita iklan dan keperluan lainnya yang mengakibatkan ketidaknyamanan bagi para pengguna web. Bentuk berita spam yang umum dikenal meliputi: spam surat elektronik, spam instant messaging, spam Usenet newsgroup, spam mesin pencari informasi web (web search engine spam), spam blog, spam berita pada telepon genggam, spam forum Internet, dan lain lain.

Spam ini biasanya datang bertubi-tubi tanpa diminta dan sering kali tidak dikehendaki oleh penerimanya. Beberapa contoh lain dari spam ini bisa berupa surat elektronik berisi iklan, sms pada telepon genggam, berita yang masuk dalam suatu forum newsgroup berisi promosi barang yang tidak terkait dengan aktifitas newsgroup tersebut, spamdexing yang mendominir suatu mesin pencari (search engine) untuk mencari popularitas bagi suatu URL tertentu, ataupun bisa berupa berita yang tak berguna dan masuk dalam suatu blog, buku tamu situs web, dan lain-lain.

Spam dikirimkan oleh pembuat iklan dengan biaya operasi yang sangat rendah, karena spam ini tidak memerlukan mailing list untuk mencapai para pelanggan-pelanggan yang diinginkan. Sebagai akibatnya banyak fihak yang dirugikan. Selain pengguna Internet itu sendiri, ISP (penyelenggara layanan Internet atau Internet service provider), dan masyarakat umum juga merasa tidak nyaman. Karena biasanya sangat mengganggu dan kadang-kadang membohongi, berita spam termasuk dalam kegiatan melanggar hukum dan merupakan perbuatan kriminal yang bisa ditindak melalui undang-undang Internet.

SCAM
adalah berita elektronik dalam Internet yang membohongi dan bersifat menipu, sehingga pengirimnya akan mendapat manfaat dan keuntungan tertentu. Contoh scam yang sering kita jumpai adalah surat berantai, pengumuman lotere, pinjaman uang tanpa agunan, cara cepat menjadi kaya, dan lain lain. Dalam hal ini akibat dari berita scam ini bagi penerimanya akan lebih serius, jika dibandingkan dengan spam.

Dalam bahasa Inggris, scam ini diartikan juga sebagai confidence trick or confidence game, sehingga pada awalnya penerima berita merasa yakin dan tidak mencurigai bahwa hal ini merupakan bentuk penipuan.